Personal Development Supercharger – 101 Tips and Techniques

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101. Begin something new. Take Action.
The most important part of any project is the beginning. Once you get past the starting point, you will be amazed at the momentum. The creative power of the universe responds by lining up the details to bring your dreams into manifestation. Coincidences begin to occur. Your job is to choose and then begin. It doesn’t matter all that much exactly what you do. You’ll have the opportunity to fine-tune the details of your doing on a moment-to-moment basis.

Don’t stress over it. Enjoy the process. Get your satisfaction and joy from the journey instead of reserving your enjoyment only for the destination. Realize that none of this can happen unless you actually begin. So, do something now and approach your goals and dreams one step at a time. Find more inspiration on translating nudges to action here: “The Power of Beginning.”

100. Supercharge your enthusiasm by clearly defining your true passions.
Enthusiasm is a compelling word; from the Greek root theos, “–inspired or possessed by a god.” Entheos means, “to be called by God” or “God within.”

Use enthusiasm deliberately, on purpose, by living your life in accordance with your true passions. Your passions are your North Star, your internal guidance system pointing you in the direction of your best life. Live it.

What are you passionate about? Are your passions buried in denial? Are they on the back burner until “later?” Do you even know what your passions are? Allow them to stretch their wings and the direction of your life could surprise you, in a good way. Learn how to identify and clarify your true passions to help you squeeze more enthusiasm out of life. Read “Your Passion as Your Compass.”

99. Say “yes.”

98. Mean it.

97. Put the power of positive affirmations to work for you. Feed your mind deliberately with healthy ideas that are in sync with what you want to manifest, as well as with who you want to become. We are surrounded by negative input from the media, from unaware people, and even from our own negative self-talk. That’s why it’s so important to tip the scales deliberately in the direction of where you want to go.

There are many helpful affirmations ready-made that you can use, but the most powerful affirmations will be those you create yourself. This allows you to breathe life into the entire process of manifestation — from the creation of the affirmation itself all the way to the emergence of your heart’s desire. Here’s a simple technique you can adapt to your own style. First, I’ll give you the formula as I currently use it. Next, I’ll discuss each word so you’ll see how it has evolved into its present state. Then, I’ll add some supporting information to provide you with a ready-to-go affirmation for your own experimentation. Read: “Manifestation Fill-in-the-Blank Affirmation.”

96. Give up your need to always be right. Can you allow your partner to be right? Can you walk away from a potential argument in order to preserve the peace? Sometimes, who’s right doesn’t really matter. Why strain relations for some nebulous, irrelevant egotistical reason? It’s not worth it. Would you rather be right, or would you rather be at peace?

This sounds so easy but you see it in kindergarten children . . . you see it in squabbles in nursing homes . . . and you see it at all stages of life in between. Some people never seem to catch on to this fundamental principle of togetherness. Explore this idea and several others compiled to help you create your dream relationship here: “10 Ways to Grow a Relationship of Mutual Personal Development.”

95. Say the words “I love you,” to the one who needs to hear it the most. Say it to the person who already knows, even if it’s obvious.

94. Make peace with the fact that there are mysteries beyond our reach. Be okay with paradoxes and enigmas. They can be fun, and thinking about them can make the inside of your head feel bigger. Much bigger!

Science, philosophy and religion all have one thing in common. They are all subjects we think about — that is, they are all accessed through the mind. Therefore, to go beyond science, philosophy and religion, it is necessary to go beyond the mind, beyond thought.

What is beyond the mind? Pure being. This is the realm beyond the world of thoughts and things. It is awareness — the sense of “I am.”

Wouldn’t it be convenient if physics could prove, once and for all, the validity of mysticism? In my imagination, I can hear physicists scoffing at the absurdity of the question. That begs another question – Why are so many physicists also mystics?

A lifetime of study has convinced them that physics and mysticism are two entirely different fields. Mysticism deals with states of consciousness, timeless being, the presence of “I am,” the formless. Science in general and physics in particular, by definition, deals with the world of form. For a complete understanding of the bigger picture, it takes both. Here’s a good place to start: “Beyond Science, Philosophy and Religion.”

93. Discover your life’s purpose. It’s worth the effort. In fact, what could be more important than to know why you are here . . . so you can get on with living the life you were born to live?

Here’s an exercise to help put it in perspective: Let’s assume that you now have a crystal clear understanding of your life’s purpose. In your imagination, fast-forward to the last days of your life. In your mind’s eye, see how your life has turned out by paying attention to your understanding of your life’s purpose for so many years. Experience how it feels to know why you were here. Look back over your life from this vantage point and write your own obituary. Are you happy with it?

If you have truly been living your life on purpose, you will feel content and fulfilled. Bask in the warm glow of a life well lived. Avoid the unpleasant consequence of never realizing your purpose by giving your attention now to the idea of your life’s purpose.

Some people don’t think it’s possible to know their life’s purpose. Maybe they just don’t know how. Perhaps they never really looked, or perhaps they never came across a structured system to help them easily discover their life’s purpose. Those who are living their lives along the lines of their purpose can’t imagine living any other way. Here’s an easy way to help you bring the idea of “purpose” into focus: “10 Steps to Discovering Your Life’s Purpose.”

92. Be still.

91. Recognize the difference between daydreaming, meditation and contemplation and then benefit from all three — deliberately. Meditation can be a nebulous concept. There’s a fine line between meditation and idle daydreaming. (I consider daydreaming healthy and beneficial too, but it’s altogether different from meditation.) For now, let’s think of meditation as a state of consciousness beyond thought, where you are identified with pure being.

Not many of us can shift into that lofty position in a moment’s notice. We need a tool, an easy technique that helps us get from point A to point B.

If you’ve been meditating for a while, it could be time to try something new. Meditation is like the path of personal development — there are many “right” ways to do it. Shake things up a little. For variety and possibly a new perspective, try contemplation.

Contemplation is a tool of deliberate, directed attention that allows us to access the more subtle states of consciousness experienced in meditation. Contemplation infers there is something specific upon which the attention is placed in order to help quiet the mind. Here’s a simple exercise, to help consciously point your attention toward four areas: breath, vibration, inner sound and light: “Simple Toning Meditation.”

90. Fine-tune your understanding of the Law of Attraction by getting it from the prime source. There are lots of descriptions, opinions, anecdotes, and viewpoints about the Law of Attraction online. Some are better than others. My article, “The Law of Attraction” offers an overview.

The best primer to round-out your understanding is this excellent book: The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham

Your best opportunity to internalize this powerful principle of manifestation and systematically put it to work in your life is to read these two in-depth, literary works of art: Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires . . . and . . . The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent: Living the Art of Allowing. (All three of these recommended books are by Esther and Jerry Hicks.

89. Don’t take yourself seriously. (Because life is too important to be taken seriously!)

88. Use music deliberately to help you feel better almost immediately. Unless we’re some kind of masochist, that’s really what all of us want . . . just to feel a little better. Music can be an effective tool to help us move in a positive direction, no matter where we currently are on the emotional scale. It’s a matter of knowing approximately where you are right now emotionally, and choosing music that helps give you a boost.

The Law of Attraction applies to music too. Whatever you think about (or sing about) grows and attracts more and more similar thoughts. When you infuse it with emotion (plenty opportunity for THAT in music), you have the recipe for manifestation.

Once the Law of Attraction is understood and embraced, after seeing it in action in our own lives, its unthinkable to deliberately pollute our creative process with negativity of any kind. (Although this discussion is focused on music, the same principles apply to most television, radio, newspapers, gossip, as well as counter-productive songs.) Explore the power of music and how to use it consciously as a tool for growth here: “Benefits of Music for Personal Development.”

87. Learn from those who know. Model success. It’s helpful to have a helping hand once in awhile. I was fortunate to have friends show me how to meditate. It was just friends showing friends something cool . . . because they could. Or maybe it was some kind of big brother / big sister program for the spiritually ripe. It was easy. It was casual. It was a life-changing experience. That was 37 years ago, and meditation teachers are still touching lives in profound ways. They pass along what they have learned . . . because they can.

If you’re new to meditation, it’s not mysterious or scary or weird. Maybe you’ve never had the opportunity to have it explained to you properly . . . or maybe you’ve never had a qualified guide lead you through the process.

Meditation is a powerful tool of personal development that can be used literally for whatever ails you. And if nothing specific is ailing you, it can be used for creating a state of deep peace and general well-being. Meditation helps open you up to allowing whatever you choose into your experience. Benefit from those who know and model their methods by reading, “Guided Meditation for Self-Healing and Personal Development.”

86. Tickle someone. (Maybe they will tickle you back.)

85. Prioritize your projects and do the most important one first. Before incorporating this simple idea, it was easy for me to get distracted, derailed, and detoured onto some tangent. There are still plenty of opportunities for distractions, but the discipline learned from years of prioritizing my projects has helped me to recognize the potential detours clamoring for my attention before they have a chance to sidetrack me.

I’ve never been keen on creating any hard and fast rules about this. Sometimes, when in the middle of a deliberately chosen priority project, something else will come up. At that moment, I am aware that I have a choice to make. Either continue with my original project, or make a decision that this new direction is my new priority project.

It sounds simple, but you don’t want to undermine your chosen priorities by every little thing that blows your way. The secret is to make these revision decisions deliberately. It’s one thing to consciously change directions and another to look up and find yourself way off course and wonder what happened. Learn more about this powerful technique to get things done here: “The Quarter Million Dollar Idea for Productivity.”

84. Discipline yourself. Personal discipline in one area can spill over with benefits in all areas of your life. When something comes too easy and too cheap, it’s value can be overlooked. Some people need to make a significant investment in time and/or money to trigger their psychological perception of value. Are you one of those people?

For example, here are a few easy exercises that take only a few minutes per day, but it takes discipline to actually follow-through and do them. Just knowing about them won’t do you much good unless you actually go through the motions. You have everything you need to begin. You have your body. By the time you finish reading the recommended article and links, you will know exactly how to do all five of the Tibetan rites (as well as why to do them). The only other ingredient you need is discipline to begin reaping the benefits.

Everywhere you look, people seem to be too busy . . . too busy to take care of themselves and exercise. Here’s a quick solution that you won’t have to force yourself to do. It takes mental discipline to actually set aside 15 or 20 minutes to do these stretches . . . especially at first. After awhile, if you’re like me, you will look forward to your routine because of how good it makes you feel. Learn more about them here: “5 Tibetan Rites — Easy Yoga for Busy People.”

83. Read a book for no other reason but to laugh out loud. Share it with someone. Take turns reading and pause whenever the urge to laugh strikes, and then milk it for all it’s worth. The best books I’ve found for this are Anguished English: An Anthology of Accidental Assaults Upon Our Language and More Anguished English: an Expose of Embarrassing Excruciating, and Egregious Errors in English

82. Turn off the TV. When television is an everyday part of your life, it’s hard to imagine life without it. That’s the point: TV is robbing your life of the power of your imagination.

TV addicts gradually loose the ability to form their own internal images and stay confused about what they really want in life. Instead of focusing their attention on their own mental images of what they want, their minds are pumped full of images and desires artificially manufactured by Madison Avenue by people with their own agendas. They don’t have “your” best interests at heart. Do you?

Choose deliberately . . . consciously . . . which desires are worthy of your attention and which ones are artificially planted within you by outside influences. We create our lives by the thoughts we think. Supercharging our thoughts with strong feelings speeds up the process. Focusing our attention on clear mental images tells the universe what we want and puts the wheels in motion to help us manifest our dreams.

How does the Law of Attraction relate to a lifetime of regular TV viewing? With a steady diet of TV, you are giving your attention to many, many things. Some wanted. Some unwanted. You engage with some of these images and ideas deliberately . . . most of them, non-deliberately. (It’s just what came on next.) Some of the non-deliberate ideas and images are upsetting to you, and you react to them with strong emotions.

Do your recognize this combination as the formula for manifestation? Clear mental images accompanied by strong emotions set the wheels in motion for creation. The Law of Attraction brings into your life whatever you focus your attention upon most, whether you want it or not.

Unfortunately, while watching TV, you are creating accidentally, unaware, by default. Instead of deliberately choosing what you want, you are giving your attention to (and therefore creating in your life) what someone else chooses for you.

However you choose to include the phenomenon of TV in your life, do it on purpose. Don’t allow it to shape the direction and quality of your life accidentally, just because it’s always on and you are always in front of it. For more food for thought on the phenomenon of television, read: “The Trouble with TV.”

81. Pay attention to how you feel. Your feelings can provide you with clear inner guidance. Feelings don’t lie. They don’t have a hidden agenda or secret motivation for influencing you one way or another. Their job is to simply let you know if your current course of action, or current train of thought, is in sync with who you really are and what you really want . . . or not.

Whenever you feel bad (regardless of what name is used to refer to the negative emotion), ask yourself, “What thoughts am I thinking right now that are taking me away from my true goals?” Once identified, direct your thinking in the opposite direction, toward what you really want. Choose thoughts that feel good. Allow those thoughts to grow and blossom into other thoughts that feel even better.

When you get that tight feeling in the pit of your stomach, there is an important communication trying to get through from the depths of your being. Are you listening? Is it a hunch? Is it a voice in your head? Is it something you feel?

Don’t confuse what you feel with who you are. Why is this important? Once you are able to access this awareness of pure being and identify yourself with it, whatever emotional cloud happens to be passing by won’t carry you away. Regular meditation helps you stay centered so the nudges coming from your inner guidance are quickly recognized and acted upon. If it makes you feel good, you’re on the right track for you at this particular time. To explore this idea of inner guidance reaching you via your emotions, read: “How Do You Feel — About Inner Guidance.”

80. Eat a ripe apple and be mindful of every bite . . . every crunch . . . every mouthful . . . every taste . . . every smell . . . every sensation. (Chocolate works well too!) Better yet, eat a peach. Best yet, find a great mango.

Don’t worry about making a mess. Let it drip down your chin and get all over you. If you can, wade into the ocean, a lake, or a stream and rinse your hands and face when you’re done. (Or, just lean over the sink and dig in!)

79. Be at peace with your desires. Understand their purpose. Don’t deny them. It’s not necessary to shy away from them or be afraid of them. And, it’s not necessary to drop everything and chase after every new desire that comes along.

Avoid disappointment by recognizing the difference between placing your attention on the object of your desire . . . and placing your attention on the absence of your desire. While trying to learn how to manifest deliberately, many become frustrated and choose to rein in their desires. They choose the status quo. They choose to ignore the picture of their best life blooming deep inside.

Many tried manifestation but kept noticing it wasn’t working for them. Their attention was repeatedly and continuously on the lack of their desire manifesting. Therefore, the Law of Attraction dutifully delivered exactly what they most often pictured. More time was spent thinking about what was missing in their lives than time spent visualizing what they wanted to create. Their balance of thought was on the lack of their desire, so that’s exactly what they got — the lack of their desire.

Instead, attention should be focused on the thing itself. While feeling excited, happy and exhilarated about it, inner guidance is saying, “Yes, these thoughts are in alignment with what is truly wanted and it is now being attracted to you like a magnet.”

What is desire? Where does it come from? Why do we have it? Does it serve us in a positive way, or does it distract us and keep us perpetually in discontent? This article sheds some light on these important questions so that each of us can find our own answers: “The Dilemma of Desire.”

78. Embrace abundance. We must understand and believe the fact that there is abundance in nature. There is plenty to go around. The visible part of nature is practically endless and inexhaustible. The invisible side of nature really is endless and inexhaustible.

Nature is not poor. If a man is poor, living in the midst of nature, it is because he has not yet learned how to help himself to nature’s bounty. It is his to enjoy, as long as he obeys nature’s laws. There is no reason to deprive ourselves, and no way of keeping us from enjoying the riches nature is happy to provide.

Nature provides a waterfall of abundance that is never ending. We can go to the waterfall with a thimble or a barrel or a tanker train. The waterfall itself doesn’t care how much or how little we take. The abundance will keep flowing, and it’s completely up to each of us as to how much we can hold. The limitation is not the waterfall, but the vessel that we take to the waterfall.

The principles of “The Subtle Side” will show you how to take a vessel of any size you choose to the waterfall. And then, about the time when you think your vessel is full, you will realize that the waterfall of abundance is inside of you and inexhaustible.

The contrasts of our lives do a fine job of helping us identify what we want, by clarifying what we don’t want. Focus your energies on what you “do” want and withdraw your attention from the things you “don’t” want. Hold a clear mental image of already having obtained your objective. How does it feel? Experience it in your imagination with your senses all functioning at 110%. See it, smell it, taste it, hear it, touch it. Make it real and immediate in your inner vision. Be grateful for it.

Then, let it go with the assumption that the physical counterpart to your mental and emotional creativity is on its way to you.

This in-depth, 4-part article explores the principles and laws that deliver what we desire. Learn to accept all that life is willing to give through the awareness that you have control over your expression of abundance. Here’s how . . . read: “The Subtle Side of Manifestation.”

77. Be playful.

76. Write the story of a significant ah-ha moment. It doesn’t have to be a perfect composition — just write your experience as you remember it. Allow the process to give you the opportunity to absorb what you learned. By writing the details, you are investing time with your attention focused on something especially important in your life. This helps you to squeeze every benefit possible from the experience.

An example from my life: An interesting chance meeting with a shaman on the beach in Mexico put into motion a stream of events that could never have been foreseen. This article explores the seeds of creativity, as well as the celebration of all life through nature: “Reverence for Life Through Nature.”

75. Learn from the mistakes of the past to avoid repeating them. It’s obvious that we can learn from our own mistakes, but we can also learn from the mistakes of those who have come and gone. Humans have been on this planet for a long time, and only recently (relatively speaking) have we had the ability to expose ourselves to the lessons learned and wisdom gleaned from the ancients.

This age of information makes it possible to benefit from the thoughts of the best thinkers, writers, philosophers, poets and teachers the world has ever known. Even though they might have lived long ago and far away, we can see into their minds and supercharge our own unique path of personal development simply by evaluating their insights. It’s inspiring to catch a glimpse of others dedicated to living life to the fullest, in spite of the fact that humanity has been making some of the same mistakes for centuries. Here’s a good reminder to help make sure we don’t continue to repeat them: “The Six Mistakes of Man.”

74. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. (But be creative and make some new ones instead of the same ones referenced above.) If you aren’t making mistakes, you are probably doing nothing. As Gandhi once said, “Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.”

73. Read books out of your comfort zone. Expand your horizons. Expose your mind to new ideas, fresh perspectives and viewpoints you would have never thought of, on your own. Stretch your mind. Give your heart wings. Allow for the expansion of soul, outside of the box of your habitual thoughts. Consider the thoughts of some of the most brilliant minds that have ever lived. We don’t have to reinvent the wheel intellectually. We can see further by standing on the shoulders of giants. Here’s a list of books that have moved me, opened me up, amazed me, thrilled me, and otherwise inspired me to take the next step of personal development. Click here for a list of books to help you supercharge your personal development.

72. Take time to communicate. Not just visit, chat or talk, but really listen, and then say what you really mean. Say what you want, clearly and directly. Let your deepest desires be known. If you don’t ask, you may not get. Communication skills can make or break us. Speak up. Listen deep. For more insights about the art and science of communication, read: “Communication — Friend or Foe.”

71. Rejoice in the delights of the senses, but don’t get stuck there. Instead use the wonders and joys of sensuality as a launching pad to experience another dimension of life . . . beyond the senses.

The idea is to occasionally turn off the senses in order to better tune into the aliveness that lies beyond them. The realization that there is something beyond the world of the five senses can provide an “aha” experience, especially at first. With the senses turned off (or even turned down), there remains a vibrant sense of aliveness — the world of feeling and the realm of being.

Once you are able to experience your self as the one who is seeing, apart from what is seen, it’s a brand new world. You aren’t the sound, but the one hearing it. You aren’t the taste, but the one tasting it. You are beyond the reach of phenomenon — you are the one who is witnessing the phenomenon. Read: “Being Present Through Sensuality.”

70. Breathe deeply with your eyes closed for 5 minutes. Then, keep your attention on your breath for another 5 minutes as it returns to normal. Whenever you notice your attention on a thought, gently return it to your breath — just watch.

69. Choose your own beliefs and re-evaluate them from time to time. Be careful that you are not mindlessly adopting the beliefs of someone else. Allow your mind the option of a fresh perspective. Entertain the possibility that new ideas can take you in new (and exciting) directions.

It’s easy to slip into mental habits. An idea isn’t necessarily true and the best of all possible viewpoints just because you’ve been thinking it for a long time. Beliefs don’t have to be static but can grow and mature as your understanding unfolds.

There’s a lot of pressure to believe. Social pressure makes a strong case to believe this way or that way or the other way. Why is it so important to so many people that you believe exactly like they do?

Is it simply a matter of insecurity? Without a strong personal sense of knowing, some people need belief to fill the gap. For many, belief is a placeholder until personal knowing can take over. Some people never know and are content to forever believe instead. Others lean on blind faith, a kind of desperate hopefulness, to fill the empty space inside when knowing remains elusive.

This article explores these two fundamental ideas of the human psyche – belief and knowing – and compares their influence in our lives: “Belief Systems vs. Knowing.”

68. Look for the spark of God in all people. Even though it is often well-disguised and deeply buried, that spark is still in there somewhere. Even when people choose to ignore it within themselves, it’s still there, waiting patiently but crying out to be recognized. Your kind word, gentle action or smile could be the catalyst that allows it to surface. What a profoundly important service you could offer by reaching out and connecting on a soul-to-soul level.

To me, a spiritual relationship exists between any two people who recognize and acknowledge that deep inside, we are the same. Behind the faces, beyond the reach of social conditioning, deeper than individual egos, we are identical. We are presence, consciousness, pure knowingness – the awareness of “I am.” We are life itself. Take your personal relationships to a whole new level. Read “Meaningful Spiritual Relationships — Namaste Matters.”

67. Write down five major blessings in your life.

66. Speak deliberately and consciously. Let the depth of your being be present in your words. The power of our word is related to our power to create. We clarify and make our intentions known through words. This power of creation is an ability attributed to and shared with God. We are the only species known who decides, intends and then manifests the fruits of our imagination. Words are powerful tools used in this sacred act of deliberately creating desired outcomes.

Most of us use this tool every day. Most do it unconsciously, unaware of the effects of their words. A few choose words carefully, aware of their power to influence and create results. Learn more about the deliberate, conscious use of language here: “How to Keep Your Word.”

65. Cultivate gratitude, feel it deeply and often, and express it to the key players in your life. How do you feel about your home? How do you feel about the people who share your home with you — past and present? How do you feel about the people who provided you with a home as you were growing up? Just imagine their sacrifices, hard work and determination to do the things they did so they could pay the rent or mortgage every month to provide you with that incredibly valuable thing called . . . home.

Can you see the value of gratitude for these fundamental elements of human experience? Where would you be without them? Can you imagine what your life might have been like without the people and place that defined your experience of home?

The feeling of gratitude is a wonderful thing. Not only does it feel good, it helps create an on-going life experience that continues to feel good. If there is anything better than the feeling of gratitude, it’s the expression of gratitude. Tell them how you feel. Find a way to communicate the fact that you appreciate what you’ve shared. Let them know their presence in your life means a lot to you. Let them know you noticed all the things they did to enhance the quality of your life. Let them know they matter.

Home and family is literally the center of our universe, but how often do we take it for granted? Celebrate life through gratitude for our sense of home and the people we share it with. Read: “Gratitude for Home and Family.”

64. Pet your cat or hug your dog.

63. Do what you love. Explore the difference between your job and your life’s work. Do you love going to work, or is it “just a job?” Do you love what you do and do what you love?

To feel complete, happy and fulfilled, the moments of our life need to be full of rewarding, satisfying activities. We enjoy our days because we enjoy our work. We also hope our actions and our work makes a difference in the world.

Those of us interested in on-going personal growth intend that our lives continue to get better and better, as our outer actions continue to get into closer alignment with our inner being. How do we do this?

A good start is to do what you love . . . as often as possible. First, clearly identify what those things are. When you really focus on what you love, and why you love it, the “how” to do it begins to show up in your life. Your attention to your passions makes you alert to opportunities that you may have otherwise missed.

When you are on-purpose and absorbed in activities related to your passions, you feel inspired. The word inspired is derived from “in spirit,” and that’s how it feels. When you are in the zone, doing what you love, you are working in spirit, with spirit, and for spirit. You are a co-worker, a conduit, a hollow reed, allowing the “goings-on” of the universe to “go-on” through you with no resistance. Instead, you consciously allow it to flow. Here’s a step-by-step method on how to put your passions to work and start living the life you were born to live: “Work — Just a Job or Visible Love.

62. Do something that takes courage. Feel the fear without denying it or suppressing it, and follow through anyway. Define exactly what you are afraid of, look it squarely in the eye and say, “You may be excused. Good-bye.” This may give you a fresh perspective on feeling afraid.

Fear is over-rated. We do it to ourselves. Fear has no reality other than our attention to it. Deliberately steer your attention to pictures in your imagination that emphasize what you want to happen — (instead of what you most dread) . . . and the fear dissipates.

Why do we hold on to so many illogical fears? It’s social conditioning. Learned responses. As children, we witness our parents (and other grown-ups) responding to the unknown with fear and worry. Naturally, we think, “Oh, that’s how you do that.” We mimic the behavior of those around us.

Mimicking behavior is fine if you happen to grow up in Shangri-La. It’s not so beneficial for the rest of us. We need a better response to the triggers that spark fear and worry. We need a deliberate, conscious reaction rather than the usual habitual, unconscious ones so common to the masses. For effective techniques on how to do that, don’t be afraid to check out: “Facing Fear with Deliberate Awareness.”

61. Notice the moment (– as often as possible.) Nurture the moment. Be here now.

60. Pamper yourself. You deserve it. Do you feel that taking time for yourself is a rare luxury? Do you continuously come to the rescue of everybody else, while time for yourself gets bumped to the bottom of the priority list?

Don’t put yourself at the end of the list. You deserve to be first, at least some of the time. Don’t let your entire life slip by with everything else (and everyone else) getting preferential treatment over your most important priorities. Their needs are important, but yours are important too.

It’s vitally important to allow some time for yourself. Take time for whatever is truly important to you. And take time to rejuvenate and recharge your energy. Lavish some life-enhancing attention on yourself, for a change. If you don’t, you can run yourself down so low; you don’t even realize you are drained, until it’s too late. Then, you don’t have anything left to give others, even if you try.

It’s okay to meet your own needs, even when others are clamoring for your attention. Allow this article to redefine your idea of selfishness for the benefit of everyone in your life — including you. Read: “Take Time for You.”

59. Sidestep the traps of criticism. Why do people criticize? It’s not about you — it’s about them. When you get criticized, here’s what to do with it — don’t take it personally. Praise can be just as harmful (but sneakier) — don’t take it personally. Genuine self-love is the prize when you have successfully untangled yourself from the opinions, praise and criticism of everyone else.

And that is the perfect center of your world from which to grow and cultivate the very best version of your best possible life. Realize that you are the center of your own personal universe . . . and so is everyone else. Some people feel the world revolves around them. They’ve got it half-right. It does revolve around them. But it also revolves around every other person on the planet. We each live in our very own world, defined by our thoughts, feelings and belief systems. Our worlds intersect here and there, but we are each in the middle of manifesting a unique life.

Whenever one of us voices a criticism of another, we demonstrate not only our lack of tolerance and compassion, but also our lack of understanding. We demonstrate our unawareness of everyone else as the center and creator of their own world, and our unawareness of the importance of our own word. To continue fine-tuning your understanding of being at the center of your own creation while allowing everyone else the freedom to do the same, read: “Don’t Take it Personally.”

58. Write down your major dreams, and then read about them later, looking for insights.

57. Give yourself some slack. Hoyt Axton sang it true: “Work your fingers to the bone and what do you get? Boney fingers.” There’s more to life than toiling away our minutes, hours, days, years . . . and lifetimes. Give yourself a little breathing room now and then.

All areas of your life improve when you are not so constantly driven and consumed by whatever project, duty, job, or “crisis” has currently monopolized your attention. Sure, all those things are important, but the constant activity must be balanced by “quiet time” to give it meaning.

Allow yourself the luxury of time to just be without any urgency to do. A satisfying life includes time for doing, balanced by time for being. In the time set aside for being, doing is not required. Not necessary. Not allowed. It’s time for staring into space and enjoying the moment . . . time for daydreams, contemplating and musing.

With time invested regularly in the realm of being, the time spent doing takes on a different quality. Actions become more focused, more deliberate, and more on-purpose.

What we do and how we do it is determined by who we are. Balancing the realms of being and doing seems to be a healthy objective — on a personal level as well as on a global level. When our perpetual propensity to do is inspired and driven by “who we are” — the realm of being . . . then our actions bring satisfaction. To explore this important balancing act in more detail, read, “Action and Satisfaction.”

56. Notice (and be grateful) that it is no longer necessary to expend the lion’s share of your life’s energy just to keep body and soul together. You are not going to be eaten by a saber-tooth tiger, and it’s highly unlikely that you will starve to death or die from exposure.

For the first time in history, average people have the luxury of “disposable time.” We can choose how to spend our time since our basic needs are met by the science and culture of our era. This hasn’t always been the case. If fact, historically speaking, it’s a relatively new development.

Think about how life has changed for humans through the centuries, and how we now have the luxury of choice. We can choose what to do with some of our time and energy since it is not all required just to get by. As we go through the motions of life, eventually it becomes apparent that what we have to do to get by needs to be balanced with our deep longing to thrive spiritually.

To thrive, we need more than just the basic necessities of life. We need more than food, clothing and shelter. We need time. We need time for ourselves . . . time for reflection and contemplation. This quality time allows us to nurture ourselves at our deepest levels. It gives soul some breathing room and allows spirit to stretch its wings and fly.

Our activities need to be undertaken consciously. Our choices need to be made deliberately – with full awareness of the potential consequences as well as the potential rewards. Do you recognize how a lifetime of choices has brought you to this moment and the life you are currently living? Explore the value of creating the details of life through informed, conscious choices by reading the article: “Spiritually Thriving Through Choice.”

55. Go skinny-dipping. (Janey and I used to go skinny-dipping . . . but these days, we go chunky-dunking.)

54. Live your life as if the whisperings from your soul really matter. Then, you are living life in your own way, on your own terms, based on your own realizations of what is true for you. You are tuned into your own station. The signal you are receiving and the message you are broadcasting with the story of your life are both on the same frequency. You are joyfully and gratefully choosing your favorites from the buffet of life.

Whatever you choose to do in life, do it because it comes from inside you rather than from society, culture, religion, or the peer pressure of the day. All these things change — they come and go with the seasons. With your ever-increasing self-reliance, you are on the leading edge of humanity’s expanding consciousness. Inspire yourself to live from the inside out by reading: “Integrity Through Self-Reliance.”

53. Dream big. Think big. Do big.

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